Marriage was never defined by a piece of paper, but by the whole heart.
Jesus is our bridegroom and he requires our whole heart. WHY? Because whatsoever we desire in our hearts we commit/submit to it.
If you have a heart to serve God’s people you’ll submit/commit to it.
If you have a heart to feed God’s people you’ll submit/commit to it.
With little to no effort you’ll submit to these things with love & joy. No matter how hard or discouraging it gets you’ll commit to the end. It’s no different with marriage.
Marriage is ministry. And if you’re not ready to commit/submit with your heart & minister to the man/woman of God, don’t mess over them.